How to Become Your Own Best Friend (And Why It Changes Everything)
There’s a quote I love by Diane von Furstenberg that touches on the importance of becoming your own best friend:
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
― Diane Von Furstenberg
And it’s true. When you treat yourself with the same love and respect you give to others, everything shifts. You stop waiting for someone else to make you happy, you set better boundaries, and you feel free to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.
Becoming your own best friend means:
- Speaking kindly to yourself instead of criticizing every mistake.
- Celebrating your wins, even the small ones.
- Setting healthy boundaries because you know your worth.
- Making choices that feel good for you without guilt.
The best part? Life feels lighter, freer, and more fun.
5 Powerful Benefits of Becoming Your Own Best Friend
1. You Become More Confident
Confidence doesn’t appear out of nowhere; it’s built through action. Spending intentional time alone helps you trust yourself and believe in your ability to handle life’s challenges.
2. Your Mental Health Improves
When you’re your own cheerleader, you rely less on others for validation. You’re more resilient, grounded, and able to comfort yourself when things feel hard.
3. Decision-Making Gets Easier
When you know yourself well, you stop second-guessing your choices. No more asking everyone else what you should do… you trust your gut.
4. Your Relationships Improve
You set higher standards for how others treat you. Healthy boundaries feel easier because you’re clear on what you will and won’t accept.
5. You Become More Resilient
When you have your own back, setbacks don’t derail you. You know you can figure things out, no matter what life throws at you.
Solo Travel: The Secret to Loving Your Own Company
Solo travel was the turning point for me. It forced me to focus on what I wanted instead of compromising for someone else. Traveling alone taught me self-reliance, boosted my confidence, and helped me fall in love with my own company.
You don’t need a big trip to start, though. Begin small:
- Take yourself out for coffee.
- Go for a walk without headphones.
- Spend an afternoon doing something you love—just for you.
The key is to practice enjoying your own presence.
How to Become Your Own Best Friend: 5 Simple Ways to Start
- Talk to Yourself Like a Friend
If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it to yourself. - Keep an Achievement Journal
Write down daily or weekly wins, no matter how small. - Celebrate What Makes You Unique
List your strengths, talents, and things you loved as a child. Start adding them back into your life. - Schedule Self-Care Like an Appointment
Treat it as non-negotiable. Even 15 minutes counts. - Embrace Discomfort
Growth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone. Start small, but keep going.
Final Thoughts
You only get one life, and you deserve to live it fully. Becoming your own best friend is the foundation for confidence, freedom, and true happiness.
This is your sign to stop waiting, start trusting yourself, and create a life that feels good to you.
Want more inspiration? Listen to the full episode of the One Girl Travel Podcast: How to Become Your Own Best Friend for more tips and stories. And if you want support building your confidence, book a call and let’s work together.
